Real Housewives of New Jersey’s Caroline Manzo is promoting her new book, cover above, in In Touch Weekly, in which she opens up about her attitude to marriage after 28 years of being married herself.
In what’s proving to be divisive, Manzo says if she learned her husband had cheated on her she’d overlook it, forgive the betrayal, and move past. Which is fine if that’s her opinion, although she seems to be putting words in people’s mouths in this interview.
She opines that it’s fine for a spouse to cheat so long as it’s a one-time thing, and it’s not a big deal for someone to disrespect and step out of their marriage because “forgiveness.” So only one of the people in the marriage needs to be honest, monogamous and loyal and it sounds like that’s the person who’s going to settle for spending nearly 30 years forgiving a cheating spouse.
According to Manzo, “No one on this planet could say with 100 percent certainty that their partner never cheated,” which is a rather sad, pessimistic statement for someone who doesn’t appear value fidelity (it’s more important to some people than others).
On the one hand, if you only see intimacy as a small cog in what makes a marriage you might be okay with your partner sleeping around and if you tolerate it or don’t mind it, it probably hurts less the subsequent time(s). Or, if you value your marriage vows as binding and trust as something underpinning the whole marriage, it would be healthier to walk away no matter the circumstances of the affair(s).
In a revealing interview with In Touch, The Real Housewives of New Jersey star opens up about her views on marriage — and says that when it comes to her 28-year-marriage to husband Albert, she would never throw the towel in over one mistake.
“If Al cheated on me 25 years ago, one night, that was then and this is now,” she tells In Touch of a topic she writes about with brutal honesty in her new book, Let Me Tell You Something. “No one on this planet could say with 100 percent certainty that their partner never cheated. I have no indication that he has, but if it didn’t happen yesterday, last week, a month ago, I’m not worried about it.”
Caroline admits that the earlier years of her marriage were a struggle, having three children in three years and almost no money. “We could hardly afford diapers,” she says. “Those were tough times.” Caroline’s happy to have powered through those years but says that if Al did stray, she would understand and forgive.
“If your husband is a good guy and a provider and you have a tremendous connection, you can’t throw your marriage away over a one-night stand,” Caroline tells In Touch. “My husband is my best friend. Marriage is worth the fight. I would go to hell and back for him and he would do the same.” – via In Touch Weekly.