Kat Von D: Jesse James Cheated With 19 Women, Needs The Validation
November 14, 2011 by Hollywoodite
Kat Von D has written another Facebook essay, where one or two passive-aggressive tweets would have sufficed.
It has already been well-established that Jesse James is a philanderer. He’s a compulsive cheater and liar. Cheating with multiple women is what ended his marriage to Sandra Bullock. He slept with a bunch of tattooed strippers only for them to go public and blow his whole game wide open. Then he went on television and cried about not being hugged enough as a child, as though that was justification for humiliating his wife (and overshadowing her Oscar win). Now he’s done the same to Von D, and she wants sympathy.
Today I encountered the 19th girl to add to the list of people Jesse cheated on me with during this last year.
I kept going back and forth in my mind as to what the best way would be for me to release and let go of any residual feelings remaining from that toxic relationship. All of this may sound petty or immature to some, but I assure you this is coming from a place of pure honesty and love.
There was a time when I was confident and excited at proving the world wrong, because I believed so deeply in people’s ability to change for the better. Although this was not a primary purpose in the relationship, I did feel like it would be a positive thing for those who judged Jesse solely based on what they read in tabloids, to see that change is always possible – even in the people who seem hopeless.
I still believe that, even if that change never occurs inside of him – because I see proof of change everyday – in others, and in myself. I’m far from perfect, but am willing to examine myself, and my patterns of dysfunction, and then put in the work to better myself. It’s a daily practice, but it’s working.
Sure, its easy to tell someone, “I told you so” especially if you’re criticizing someone from the outside, but that attitude comes from a place called Ego, and not Love. I know I deserve a big fat “I told you so,” from everyone, and wish I didn’t have to say, “You all were more right than you’ll ever know” but you were.
Not to worry, I’ve gladly paid the consequences for every mistake I’ve ever made, but learned so much from each of them.
Yes, I am pretty tired of getting mistaken for the girl who everyone believes to have broken up Jesse and Sandra’s marriage, just because I have black hair and tattoos like that other gal. That does get a quite annoying at times, and it would be nice to not be associated with her, but that’s trivial in the grand scheme of things.
I think it just made me sad today to imagine him still in that dark place – where seeking validation through the attention of women takes precedence over being a good father, a sincere friend, a better coworker, and a happy individual.
I tried my best to go through all of this without venting, or complaining, or fueling more tabloid mumbo jumbo – but this isn’t about any of that.This is about me making peace with myself, and forgiving myself for making some bad mistakes. – via Von D’s Facebook.
One woman came out of the closet, a few months back, posting on a website for women who’ve been cheated on. Von D knew about the cheating before her relationship to James. She knew about some of the cheating during their on-off relationship. Yet she’s surprised he continued to cheat through their engagement(s)? As though, with her implicit co-signing by staying with him, there was reason to stop.
Moreover, Von D’s not saying anything about James he didn’t already say during his pity party Nightline interview. He needs the attention of women. Multiple women, ANY women. We know. Oh, bet it sucks Von D has a HUGE tattoo of this man on her person (reason # 1,244 not to get a dumb tattoo of someone’s face or name on your body, EVER).
PHOTO CREDIT – FLYNET PICTURES
